Watercolour of canvas tents scattered among oaks and golden hills

Lenny & Leilani

A Retreat on Love

Monday 14 – Thursday 17 June 2027 ✦ Whispertree Retreat, Northern California

Why a retreat

Lenny and Leilani standing close together among mossy trees and ferns

This retreat is an encapsulation of what we hold dear: natural beauty, connection, love, and most importantly, you: our friends and family who have held us along the way, and who we hope will carry us forward as we embark on this new journey.

So rather than a single afternoon, we're asking for three nights. We want to spend time with you, on hikes, in the pond, over dinner and on the dance floor. There will be a non-traditional wedding ceremony on Wednesday afternoon, and a big party to follow. We ask that you come for the entirety of the event, so we can hold and create a container together.

Us over the years

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Getting There

Watercolour of a country road winding through golden oak-studded hills

We will gather from 4pm on Monday 14 June and then say goodbye by 11am on Thursday 17 June.

San Francisco (SFO)

About 2 hr 30 by car

Oakland (OAK)

About 2 hr 30 by car

Santa Rosa (STS)

About 1 hr 15 by car

Address

12378 Boonville Road, Boonville CA 95415

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Rides & car sharing

Details to follow.

Where You'll Stay

Accommodation types

A bell tent under a timber shelter, bed visible inside, oak hillside beyond

Glamping Tent

Real bed · sleeps 2 · shared bath house

A sunlit room with a bunk bed and a single bed, striped blankets, tall window

Shared Bunk Room

Dorm-style bunks · sleeps 4–6 · shared bath

A bedroom with a four-poster bed, green and orange linens, and a fireplace

Room in House

Real bedroom · sleeps 2 · private bath

Room assignments & contribution

We will assign rooms based on mobility and need. All options are heated and have proper beds. If you have any specific requirements please let us know in the RSVP form.

All meals are included, with gluten-free, vegetarian and vegan options.

We don't expect gifts, your presence is the greatest gift for us; instead we are asking guests to chip in for accommodation on a sliding scale of roughly $200–600 total per person for all three nights, with a suggested contribution of $400.

Rough Schedule

Watercolour of canvas bell tents on a golden hillside beneath a large oak

Arrival

Monday 14 June

  • Check-in from 4:00pm
  • Welcome dinner at 7:00pm
  • Hot tub and chill
Watercolour of a wooden jetty reaching out over a still pond

Tuesday and Wednesday

15 & 16 June

  • Yoga in the morning
  • Build your own breakfast from 9:00am
  • Unconference-style workshops throughout the day
  • Catered lunch at 1:00pm
  • Afternoon ceremony or group activity
  • Dinner at 7:00pm
  • Party
Watercolour of a table with two coffee cups looking out over misty hills

Departure

Thursday 17 June

  • Coffee, breakfast and goodbyes
  • Check-out by 11:00am

What to Bring

Packing

Anderson Valley in June is hot by day and properly cold once the sun goes down, often a thirty-degree swing. Pack for both.

A full packing list is coming in May 2027.

Your Invitation

Who's included

Everyone sleeps on site, and Whispertree only has a fixed number of beds, so we've had to plan this around a specific and fairly small group of people. Because of that limited space, we're unable to accommodate plus-ones.

Your invitation lists by name everyone we've held a place for. Some of you are bringing children and we're delighted about it, and their names will be on there too.

If anything is unclear, or your circumstances have changed since we wrote to you, please ask.

Ask us anything

Engagement Photos

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Questions

Things people have asked

Wait, Monday to Thursday?

Yes, and we know that's a lot to ask. Mid-week was the only way to have Whispertree entirely to ourselves. We hope you can take the time off. If you really must, there will be some unscheduled morning time for checking email.

Do I have to come for all of it?

Yes, please. We want to create and hold a container, and that only works if we're all together from start to finish.

What's an unconference?

Rather than a fixed schedule, the workshops are made and put on by you. Guests are invited to share talks, activities, and workshops on the topic of love. There will also be some pre-scheduled whole group afternoon activities.

Can I bring a partner or a friend?

Only if they're named on your invitation. Everyone sleeps on site and Whispertree has a fixed number of beds, so we can't accommodate plus-ones. If your situation has changed since we wrote to you, tell us and we'll see what's possible.

What about a registry?

We do not have a registry. Your presence and time are the greatest gift.

What's the weather like?

Anderson Valley in mid-June is hot and dry in the afternoon, often into the eighties, and then drops into the forties overnight.

I have a dietary requirement or allergy.

Every meal has gluten-free, vegetarian and vegan options as standard. For anything beyond that, tell us in the RSVP and we'll get it to the kitchen well ahead of time.

Will I have phone signal?

Phone service in the valley is patchy at best and the wifi reaches the main buildings only.

Can I bring my dog?

Sadly not. Whispertree asks that pets stay at home.

What's the land like to walk?

Six miles of trails through meadows, oak and fir. The Valley Trail from the Barn to the top of the Knoll takes about ten minutes; there are also one-mile, 2.5-mile and 3-mile loops. There's poison oak in the woods off the trails, as well as ticks. Please do a full tick check when returning from a walk!

Can I arrive a day early or stay on after?

Unfortunately not.

What if I need to cancel?

Life happens and we'd rather know early than late. Email us as soon as you can so we can release the room.

Something else.

Write to us at wedding@leilanibellamy.com. We would much rather answer than have you guess.

Watercolour of a great oak in a golden meadow, a flower arch beneath it and rows of empty wooden chairs facing it

RSVP

Tell us you're coming

Please reply by Friday 14 May 2027. One form per invitation; list everyone named on yours together.

Only the names on your invitation, please; we can't accommodate plus-ones. If you think someone's missing, write to us and we'll sort it.

Flight details help us group people into shared airport pickups.

There's no ride-share out here, so spare seats are worth a great deal to someone.

Please send them to wedding@leilanibellamy.com. We would love anything we haven't seen, however blurry.